How to Get Your Spouse Excited About Real Estate Investing

You may find yourself in a situation where you are excited about investing in real estate investing, but your spouse or significant other isn't. That could be a problem. If they are not involved with you or at least supportive, it could stop you could. Here's some suggestions that may help.

What if your spouse says, 'No way. I'm not getting into real estate investing. After all, uncle Harry lost his shirt that way.'

What are your options? Option one, you could divorce your spouse and move forward alone. I don't suggest that. Besides, that's pretty expensive.

Option two, you could find a new interest, one your spouse could support. I don't suggest that either. If real estate investing is your dream, you should be able to find a way to pursue it. Don't give up your dream! Your dream is what will inspire you, motivate you, and make you a success.

Option three, you could find a way to change the mind of your spouse and help them get excited too. This is the option you want to tackle. It may not be easy, but it's the best option.

So, just how can you change your spouse's mind? Can you turn on the charm and make it happen? Has that worked for you in the past? I doubt it.

Has there ever been a time in the past where you helped your spouse change their mind about some big issue? Think back to that experience. What did you learn then that would help you now.

Here are a few suggestions on what NOT to do:

Don't argue with your spouse in order to gain their support. When has that ever worked for you?

Don't belittle your spouse and make them feel stupid. That definitely won't work.

Don't say, 'I'm going to do it anyway, with or without you.' That will only create more resistance.

Don't give up.

Here are a few suggestions that might help.

1. Join a local real estate investor's organization and take your spouse to the meetings. There are national associations that have local clubs in most metropolitan areas of the country. Check out www.NationalREIA.com. Do an internet search to find a local club near you. Ask around, there is probably a group or two near you.

In these clubs you will find like minded people. You'll find beginning investors and seasoned investors. You'll find Realtors, lenders, attorneys, property managers, insurance brokers, etc. Joining a local club is a great way to build your network as you learn about investing.

These clubs often have weekly and monthly meetings. The meetings are usually educational and a lot of deals are made there too.

Just being around other investors and hearing their stories will help your spouse get excited. When we see others having fun and being successful, we want to join in too.

2. Find a few good seminars and ask your spouse to attend with you. Don't be demanding. Be encouraging. Make sure it's a GOOD seminar. Ask for recommendations from your fellow club members.

If your spouse isn't interested in attending a seminar about real estate investing you might have to be creative. There are seminars on cruises. There are seminars in beautiful locations across the country. What if you proposed an exciting trip that just happened to be in one of those locations?

After the seminar you and your spouse can discuss the ideas presented. Now, you are going to be all excited and gung ho about moving forward rapidly. Just keep in mind that's not your purpose at this point. Your purpose is to expose your spouse to the wonderful world of real estate investing.

3. Pick one or two books on real estate investing and ask your spouse to read it with you. A book can be a great motivational tool. Pick one that is easy to read and has some great testimonials.

Sometimes we just need to hear an idea from someone else before we can get excited.

Consider a trade off. 'I'll read a book on how to become the best husband (or best wife), if you'll read this book about real estate investing.'

4. Spend some quality time with another successful investor. Most seasoned real estate investors are great people who love to share what they know. Talk with a successful investor in your area and explain your dilemma. Ask about going to dinner together and would they be willing to just talk about their successful experiences.

5. Finally, when your spouse shows that least little bit of interest... be appreciative. Offer lots of praise and encouragement. Tell them how smart they are. (It's the truth).

Everyone loves to be appreciated. Remember, you goal is to develop common investing goals with your spouse. This is critical to your success.

Now, takes these simple steps and your spouse is sure to get excited about investing in real estate with you.